Life isn’t always easy.
We all go through hard times it’s how we handle them that makes the difference. One woman gets a divorce, is completely devastated and just can’t seem to get over the fact that her husband left her for another woman. Because she’s so unhappy it affects other aspects of her life and she just can’t seem to find joy in anything. Twenty years later she’s still bitter and blames her unhappy life on the fact that her husband left her.
Another woman gets divorced because her husband leaves her for another woman and although she devastated she tries to get on with her life. She goes back to school, gets a great job, meets and marries a nice guy and twenty years later says the divorce was the best thing that ever happened to her.
We all know people like this, people who had some life altering experience and they either become a much better and happier person or they became bitter and miserable. What causes the difference? Attitude and our thoughts influence our attitude! The good news is we have the power to choose our thoughts and attitude! We can choose to be positive and learn from life’s challenges or we can choose to be stuck and miserable and have a victim mentality.
How do we change our thoughts?
Most everything we do is habit, including our thoughts. Ninety-percent of the thoughts you have today are the same thoughts you had yesterday. If you start to become aware of what your telling yourself, you will have the ability to question your thoughts and change them.
Keep a journal. At the end of every day review your day. Record what went right and what didn’t. Analyze what you could have done differently to make the outcome better. Don’t judge yourself, there’s no such thing as failure just learning experiences.
Have something to focus on. Victor Frankel the author of “Man’s Search For Meaning,” found that those prisoners in the concentration camps who kept their spirits up and had someone or something to live for, (focus on), had a much better chance of surviving the concentration camps then those who didn’t.
How would your life be different if you could change how you think? It’s uncomfortable to change a habit, including what we think, but it can be done! Are you willing to work at changing? Are you willing to be uncomfortable? Do you think it’s worth it? What are the consequences of not changing?
To learn more about how to change your thoughts, join my September 28th mastermind on the book, As A Man Thinketh, by James Allen.
To register go to: www.jlbcoachingsolution.com/calendar.html.