Family can often bring on the most stress. Every family has someone in it that can turn an intelligent, self-assured adult into an insecure, angry, frustrated, and hurt little kid. You remember the saying, “sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never harm me?” We all know that isn’t true. Words do hurt and often take much longer to heal than broken bones, but only if we allow them to!
There are some people, I call these the “drama queens,” that just aren’t happy unless they make everyone else miserable. By the way drama queens can be male or female.
When you’re dealing with a drama queen, prepare for them ahead of time. Tell yourself that you are an intelligent, capable person and that whatever this person says stems from their own insecurities. Only you can allow someone to hurt your feelings and this time you’re not giving them permission to do that!
If someone in your family is bullying you, you can try to ignore what they’re saying and not react or respond to it. You can remove yourself to another room or go talk to another person. Usually they’re looking for a reaction and if they don’t get one they may give up.
If that doesn’t work let them know that you love them but don’t appreciate how they’re talking to you and that it isn’t appropriate behavior for a holiday get together and if they would like to discuss something with you, you would be happy to do so, in private at another time.
Also, have someone there with you that you know will support you. Someone you can go to when you feel like you’re losing control, and will help you regain your perspective and confidence.
You deserve to have a joyous and wonderful Holiday, so don’t allow others to ruin it for you. Words are just that, just because someone said them it doesn’t make them truths. Consider the source and realize that they come from a person who has their own problems and insecurities!
Wishing you and your family a joyous and wonderful Holiday Season and a happy, healthy and prosperous New Year!